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My heart was heavy for the Hicks, McCoy, and UT family. Below I have posted what I shared with "my son" before leaving him in his dorm room. I borrowed some of this wisdom and some it is original, but I think the same tone should be given to all of our children especially as we reflect on our own mistakes, some of which take a lifetime to overcome.
"Son you're never going to be the same person you are right now.
Your promise and potential are very fickle.
Some decisions you make now, son, won't be able to be changed but with years and years of hard work to redo it... And in those years you become something different. Everybody does as the time passes. You get married, you get into debt... But you're never gonna be the same person you are right now. And promise and potential... It's very fickle, and it just might not be there anymore.
You're an young adult now... And the tough thing about adulthood is that it starts before you even know it starts, when you're already a dozen decisions into it. But what you need to know, son, is that there is no Lifeguard watching you anymore but the Holy Spirit. You're on your own. You're your own man, and the decisions you make now are yours and yours alone from here until the end and for sure God will judge us for our choices. God is merciful and will forgive you for anything, MAN and society WILL NOT! We have spent a lot of years and shed a lot of tears in praying for you to be kept in every circumstance and be the man God has called you to be. Mom and I are trusting the Lord that you will be kept.
We love you and have been and always will be there for you."
Posted by a Father that cares.
This post was edited by Blu Horn 19 months ago
Well stated and very wise council. I've had similar discussions with my children. Knock on wood my oldest is scared to death of any negative consequences and walks a country mile from risk and my second has already been before a judge (smoking cigarettes) and served community service.
But as you know, the parenting doesn't stop at the dorm room.
At some point they have to fly and we have to live with the consequences, both good and bad. But live we must and I feel sorry for all parties involved in this ordeal and to any family that has to work through such circumstances.
I couldn't sleep last night worrying about Case and Hicks and their families. I know how tormented all must be right now and, while all the rest of Longhorn fandom seems to want nothing more than to point fingers, I just pray for them all.
This goes beyond football but I pray for closure and grace.
But then I am an old man...
This has to be a very difficult situation for the parents on both sides. I don't have sons; the Lord blessed me with daughters instead. Since they were in single digit years of age I prayed that they would grow up to be rational, well-adjusted young ladies and that they would have the sense to make good decisions. I've been (mostly) fortunate in this regard so far.
No matter the final outcome of this situation the lives of at least three families have been changed forever.
edit to add: Good post by Blu, and sound advice to your young man. I hope he always keeps those thoughts close to mind
This post was edited by ChampKind 19 months ago
I may be completely off base here but I haven't given any thought to the future of McCoy and Hicks. If the allegations aren't true, then justice will be served. They were sent home for a variety of reasons, obviously they are a distraction at this point. I guarantee you part of them being sent home was because they were breaking curfew and team rules. If Mack Brown is going to be successful going forward, you have to be willing to punish your good players as well as your bad.
In terms of sympathy, my heart goes out to the girl. I hope that this situation is a misunderstanding but if it isn't all of us should be worried about her. Rape is a terrible crime that scars for life. She could possibly be looking at years of therapy and counseling to try and deal with the damage done.
McCoy and Hicks broke rules and made a string of really bad decisions to end up where they are. They ignored the lessons of their life, they ignored their parents, their extended family, their teachers at school, the coaches at Texas. They chose to believe that they are special and entitled and ended up in a bad situation. I have zero sympathy for them.
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Spot on...but, we do not have all of the facts yet. I think the OP was speaking to the fact that this is so much bigger than football.
For one we don't know if the girl is telling the truth or lying, and there are definite inconsistencies in the police report that could indicate she fabricated the "didn't give consent" part. I would wait to feel any sympathy for her, Hicks, or McCoy.
Chances are likely no charges will be brought about unless something changes like a tox work up on the girl finds traces of ruffies or something else happens that we aren't aware of now. If that's the case then both McCoy and Hicks plus the girl need to use this as a learning situation to always keep under control and not let a substance ruin your perception and judgement.
All 3 will be lucky if nothing comes about from this they they still have their lives and freedom entact and can learn from this incident.
That's one thing I told my nephew before going off to college, think before you do, one wrong choice can effect you for a lifetime weather it's good or bad.
This post was edited by Fooliewane85752 19 months ago
I hope the charges go away for everyones sake but it doesn't change the fact that McCoy and Hicks knowingly broke team rules, pretty selfish. Even if you take away the rape allegation they would gave been suspended and sent home. I would be more inclined to lose sleep over the effect this has on the team and fans rather than MvCoy and Hicks.
This post was edited by midway 19 months ago
My son is 7. Blu, I'm taking notes for the future. Your contributions to this site are very much appreciated. I hope your boys understand how blessed they are.
Mack did the right thing IMO.
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Nice words Blu and agree. I too have taught my sons right from wrong, have poured my life into them and done my best to model how a Christian man is supposed to treat others especially women by the way I treat my bride and their mother. I taught them also through a father-son group called "Raising a Modern Day Knight" and invested countless hours in their lives. Then the day came to release them to be men. Truth is they were men before that day.
One thing one can not do is give your son a heart for God. You can model, pray for it and teach it but everyone has their own choices in life and victories and mistakes. It has to be their choice and genuine, not just something to please dad. One of my three still is not yet living with this standard and is having to learn the lessons he could have avoided by simply following his upbringing and the teachings of his youth, yet they are his lessons and he must learn them in a way that it is genuine for him and sticks, while I get out of the way and pray and love him anyway. Case and Jordan are learning the hard way on this one.
You are the first poster I will ever put on ignore. There is a separate echelon of douche bag posters that you have graduated to. You are in a class of your own.
Just take comfort knowing that no one remembers the second biggest asshole, only the biggest. And you sir are it.
This post has been edited 2 times, most recently by Newy25 19 months ago
So you feel the need to attack me personally just because I strongly caution to not take this girl's word for it and wait until charges are either filed or not filed? That's really worth you acting this way?
Please put me on ignore if it means I don't have to deal with you following me around spitting bullsh*t because you want to condemn two longhorns without any proof they committed a crime. You're doing me a favor
I"ve been out of town and didn't have a time to post a reply to what happened.... your post is excellent. We all need to follow up with that and pray for the three people involved.
If you're not making mistakes, then you're not doing anything. I'm positive that a doer makes mistakes.
Yes, I also raised my son and daughter to know the Lord Jesus Christ, the triune God. To help others. Be in the Word. And, they have to be released. We are all different persons. We are given Free Will. There are consequences to the decisions we make. Pray often. Whatever the outcome, there will be a finality to all that happened. There will be scars. Hopefully, lessons will be learned. Lives changed for the better. God still sits on the throne. Rom 8:28
"Don't know. Never had one"
-- D. Royal-Mack Brown how to coach a team after a losing season
Mr. Blueitt, I read your post when it went up yesterday and gave you an up vote. After reading the tweets issued by Cayleb Jones father, I felt compelled to let you know how much I admire your approach to the opportunity your son has been given to attend The University of Texas on a football scholarship. I look forward to watching Caleb play over the next few years. I know he is a fine young man that you and his Mother have taught the proper values to. God Bless all of you. Hook'em Horns.
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